We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves. "I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves. "Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant. No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts. You've encountered your own example of the many t...
We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves.
"I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves.
"Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant.
No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts.
You've encountered your own example of the many times you've broken promises to yourself.
As Epictetus put it: “How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?”
You wouldn't allow this behavior from others. Why are you allowing it for yourself?
Every time you break a promise to yourself, it's a vote for your worst self. It's an action of disrespect to yourself. It's a step that you don't trust yourself, that you are not worthy of keeping that promise.
Start today. Take that action to vote for yourself. Keep that promise. Just one. Take that step for you, your best self.