We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves. "I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves. "Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant. No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts. You've encountered your own example of the many t...
It is easier to be negative because it is a lower level of
energy. It takes more energy to be positive. It’s easier to find the bad
things, the wrong things, the things that don’t work. It takes a lot more
energy to create, build, praise and uphold than to critique what is already
created. We’ve all been battered through life with bad things and it’s much
easier to wallow in it than to pick yourself up. In order to pick yourself up,
you have to realize that it’s on you, your effort, your energy. It’s easier to
blame others, talk about others because it doesn’t force us to look in the
mirror and realize the bad things might be our fault.
This isn’t to justify people being
negative, it’s just an explanation. People naturally tend to take the path of
least resistance. Least resistance is how our species evolved.
Our
biology has developed to conserve energy because we didn’t know when our next
meal would be available. Evolution built into our DNA to conserve energy
because it usually took a great deal of energy to get that next meal. If homo
erectus on the plains was a manic that kept busy every waking minute doing his
chores, he would have no energy left when it came time for the big hunt. It’s a
survival mechanism.
People
who are positive take the energy and effort to be positive. When things are going
badly, they do the work to make it better. For things to get better, you must
get better. It’s easier to complain and blame others. It takes courage to look
into yourself and take responsibility. It takes effort to find the good in the middle
of the bad. Those are the people to be admired and emulated. Negativity and
negative people will always be around. Expend the extra energy and effort to find
the positive and evolve from our ancestors.