We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves. "I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves. "Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant. No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts. You've encountered your own example of the many t...
In our culture to make everyone as comfortable as possible (participation trophies, not keeping score, include everyone, etc), we miss out on the valuable lessons of being uncomfortable, not to mention the lessons from pain. The problem with getting out of pain is that it removes the drive to change.
Being uncomfortable makes us take notice, being in pain forces us to look at ourselves. We love talking about other people's troubles and pain because it allows us to focus on their problems and distracts us from looking within. People will do anything and everything as long as they don't have to look at how they are responsible for how they are feeling. Most of us don't want to admit that who we are and how we feel is mostly nurture and not nature. The shape of our ears or how our second toe is taller that our big toe is not up to us. What we think, how we feel, who we blame and what we do is all on us.