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            It is easier to be negative because it is a lower level of energy. It takes more energy to be positive. It’s easier to find the bad things, the wrong things, the things that don’t work. It takes a lot more energy to create, build, praise and uphold than to critique what is already created. We’ve all been battered through life with bad things and it’s much easier to wallow in it than to pick yourself up. In order to pick yourself up, you have to realize that it’s on you, your effort, your energy. It’s easier to blame others, talk about others because it doesn’t force us to look in the mirror and realize the bad things might be our fault. This isn’t to justify people being negative, it’s just an explanation. People naturally tend to take the path of least resistance. Least resistance is how our species evolved.               Our biology has developed to conserve energy because ...

     No matter how meaningless or painful, however dead life appears, you have to go on. You have to continue if not for yourself, than for everyone that comes after and for the people you will affect, influence or alter. You may not see your effects on others but your ripple is felt across the entire ocean of humanity. We may not always feel the effect but your presence touches every drop, every wave, every tide.     Your mere presence, even if you don't feel like your life matters, affects us all. Life itself seems to always turn towards an infinite meaningless, discouraging, down trodden, dispirited and the despair in which there is nothing. But however meaningless, however dead life appears, there is always someone of faith, energy, warmth who steps in and doesn't let themself be destroyed. This person steps in and does something, hangs on, survives, lives and breaks the meaningless.     Go, continue, live, survive because we are all depending o...

When I was 7, years old my grandmother died. I had only known her for two years before she passed away. She was a sweet old gentle lady and through her broken Italian English,   I understood that she loved me, she cared for me and wanted to hug me. All the time. She also made the best raisin bread. Peperidge Farm couldn’t come close. When she passed away, people would come up my family and say “I’m sorry”. Why were they sorry? They weren’t responsible? Why were they saying that to us? This really confused me. When I got older, much older, I realized that when people say, “I’m sorry” they mean that they are saying, “I’m sorry for your loss.” I can understand that. They are saying we are sorry that you have this lose in your life. This person is no longer here.             I don’t know how the universe works or what exactly happens when someone dies. I do know that when someone does die, to me, there really is no loss...

How do you tell someone that they are going to die? Most physicians at some point in their career will have to actually do this. No matter how old or young the patient, there doesn't seem to be a good way to say this.  "Are you sure?" is the first response. "Yes" The second is, "How long?" "Not very long." What amount of time is really enough when you deliver this news? I'm reminded of the quote from Michael Landon when he found out he had cancer. "Someone should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying." When you're staring at someone that you tell this to, there is never enough time. Is hours, days or minutes enough? Does time even mater at this point? Undone dreams, incompleted projects, unsaid goodbyes, ungiven forgiveness, unfelt love. They all need more time. How would you tell someone their time is up? Then realize, that the person you have to say this to is you.