We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves. "I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves. "Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant. No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts. You've encountered your own example of the many t...
We all have regrets. Things that we wish we had done
differently, things that we believe would have be “better” if we had made a
different choice. If we only had tried harder, pushed more, turned left. We
tend to dwell more on these things when times are hard or we are in trouble.
When things aren’t going well, we tend to narrow our vision of the past on
things that we believe would have led to a different outcome.
Perhaps if
we done some things differently, it would be different. Those changes would
have a ripple effect on your entire life. The things bring happiness now would
also be different. If you were conceived a few minutes later or before when you were actually conceived, you might not exist. No more you.
We may have regrets about some of
the choices we made, but we also have the good things with those regrets.