We make promises to others we wouldn't think of breaking: our spouses, friends, our business partners our coworkers. Yet, we have no problems breaking the promises we make to ourselves. "I won't waste time on useless sites", "I'll stop procrastinating", "I'll do better", "I won't lose my temper", "I won't drink anymore", the list goes on and on. We let ourselves break those promises, even the same ones over and over. How much longer will we let this go on? We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from others, yet we do it to ourselves. "Self-esteem is just the reputation that you have with yourself. You'll always know." - Naval Ravikant. No one else may not know but you always will. How many more promises are you going to keep breaking to yourself? Is this how you would treat your family and friends? Maybe this is the reason why you have doubts. You've encountered your own example of the many t...
I would rather that people visit and see me while I'm alive rather than they come to my funeral. I realize that the funeral is for the other people too but you wouldn't go unless that person passed away. Wouldn't it better to see them while they are still alive? To speak to them, to listen to them and to tell them everything you ever wanted to say while they are still alive - isn't that better than "visiting" them at their funeral? Of course you want to comfort the people that remain behind but is that the best time to visit the person who is no longer alive? Make the most of that person while you still have the chance. You'll only find regret for the person who died at the funeral. They would have much rather you had visited them while they were still alive.